Choosing what to wear to a rehearsal dinner as a guest can feel like a big decision. This event is one of the most personal parts of a wedding celebration, typically bringing together close family and the wedding party after the ceremony rehearsal. The evening usually involves dinner, heartfelt speeches, and lively conversation—but it may also have a specific theme or dress code. If you’re invited, it’s important to respect both the stated dress code and the unspoken expectations for your outfit.
Here’s everything you need to know about dressing for a rehearsal dinner, from decoding the dress code to colors you might want to skip.
### How to Choose Your Outfit
A rehearsal dinner is a special pre-wedding gathering for the couple’s inner circle. While it’s more formal than a typical dinner out, the exact vibe depends on the couple’s preferences. To make sure you’re dressed appropriately, keep these guidelines in mind.
#### Follow the Dress Code
The first step in picking your outfit is checking whether the couple has specified a dress code. Some rehearsal dinners call for suits and gowns, while others may be themed or more relaxed.
*”When it comes to rehearsal dinner attire, my top tip is to follow the dress code,”* says bridal stylist Gabrielle Hurwitz. *”If it’s ‘cocktail attire,’ opt for a suit or a stylish dress. If it’s ‘mountain chic,’ go for jeans with a blazer or a dress paired with boots.”*
If the invitation doesn’t mention a dress code, it’s fine to ask the couple for guidance—just do so a few weeks in advance. While you don’t want to add to their pre-wedding stress, you also don’t want to clash with the tone of their event.
#### Check the Weather
Your outfit should be stylish and dress-code appropriate, but comfort matters too.
*”Don’t forget to consider the season and location when choosing your look,”* Hurwitz advises. *”You don’t want to overheat in a long-sleeve dress on a Mexican beach or freeze in a flimsy cocktail dress at a mountain lodge.”*
Check the weather forecast in the days leading up to the event so you can plan accordingly. If the forecast is unpredictable, pack a backup outfit just in case.
#### Consider the Venue
The location of the rehearsal dinner can also influence your outfit. If it’s outdoors, prepare for the elements—bring sunglasses for a sunny setting or a wrap if the evening turns chilly. Avoid stilettos if you’ll be walking on grass or sand. Some venues may have their own dress codes (like jackets required for dinner), so do a little research once you receive the invitation.
### Rehearsal Dinner Outfit Ideas
So, what should you wear? Think about the event’s tone and guest list. Beyond the dress code, consider the couple’s style. Are they fashion-forward? Feel free to have fun with your look. Is their family more traditional? Lean toward classic, polished choices.
Remember, your outfit will likely appear in the couple’s wedding photos, so aim for something elegant and timeless. A well-tailored suit or a chic dress is always a safe bet.
If you’re in the wedding party, your attire for the big day will likely be chosen for you—so the rehearsal dinner is your chance to showcase your personal style. Have fun with accessories or bold colors while still keeping it appropriate for the occasion.Choose an outfit that reflects your personal style, but make sure it fits the expected dress code for the evening.
**Photo: Jose Villa**
### What Not to Wear to a Rehearsal Dinner
Avoid anything that goes against the dress code—it’s not only out of place but also disrespectful to the couple’s wishes. Since rehearsal dinners are typically more formal, skip the jeans unless the invitation specifically allows them.
“Another general rule: Unless the couple requests it, steer clear of white,” says Hurwitz. White is traditionally reserved for the bride, so avoid white dresses, full white suits, or even outfits with a white base and colorful prints. A white shirt under a black or colored suit is fine, but keep it subtle.