The question “Can you wear white to a wedding?” doesn’t always have a straightforward answer, but it’s generally a fashion mistake best avoided. Showing up in a cream or white outfit might earn you disapproving looks, a request to leave from the wedding party, or even an accidental red wine spill (just check TikTok for proof this really happens). Guests often wonder which colors to steer clear of and what counts as “too much white.” The good news? You can still have fun with your outfit while avoiding a major misstep.

“I’ve seen guests show up in designer looks from Jacquemus and Gucci,” says stylist Micaela Erlanger, who works with stars like Lupita Nyong’o and Diane Kruger. “People are bringing their personal style to wedding fashion, but there’s still an element of respect and decorum involved.”

For expert advice on wedding guest etiquette, we turned to Erlanger and bridal stylist Anny Choi.

### Can You Wear White to a Wedding?
“The short answer is no—unless the invitation specifically asks for it,” says Choi. Some couples, especially for spring or summer weddings, might host an all-white event or pre-wedding party where guests are encouraged to wear white. In those cases, Choi suggests opting for solid white rather than floral prints, since the bride will likely be in a similar style. The rules are slightly different for suits: while a full white suit is off-limits, a white dress shirt is usually acceptable (and sometimes even recommended, depending on the dress code).

### Why Is Wearing White to a Wedding a Problem?
Traditionally, white is reserved for the bride. Wearing it as a guest can come across as trying to upstage her on her big day—even at weddings where both partners are grooms, white is still considered their exclusive color.

### What About Ivory or Cream?
“It’s all white!” Erlanger says. Choi agrees, noting that the no-white rule extends to ivory, cream, beige, and similar shades. When in doubt, play it safe. “The idea that brides only wear big white princess gowns is outdated,” Choi adds. “Brides today wear all kinds of styles, so you never know what they might choose.”

### How Much White Is Too Much?
“If the main color of your outfit doesn’t read as white, you’re fine,” Erlanger explains. While an all-white dress is a definite no—especially if it has lace or other bridal details—there’s also a gray area to avoid. A dress with a white base and a colorful print might still be risky, whereas a colorful dress with white accents is usually safe.

Choi also points out that some pale colors (like soft pink or butter yellow) can photograph looking like white. If you’re unsure whether your outfit is too close to cream, it’s better to skip it. A good rule of thumb? If you’re questioning it, don’t wear it. Choose something else that won’t risk upsetting anyone.

### How Can Couples Clarify the Dress Code?
While avoiding white is an unspoken rule, couples can also help guests by clearly stating the dress code on invitations or wedding websites (e.g., black tie or cocktail attire). Bridal stylists often create mood boards that can inspire both the couple and their guests. “Couples are getting more creative with dress codes than ever,” Erlanger notes. “Clear communication helps everyone feel comfortable and confident in their outfits.”

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The trend of offering guests style suggestions along with the dress code has grown more popular, according to Erlanger. “Clients often ask me to create mood boards linked to their wedding websites, giving guests ideas on what to wear. It’s part of the invitation design and the overall effort to shape the event’s vibe. These aren’t strict rules—just helpful guidance to steer guests in the right direction.”

Other Colors to Skip as a Wedding Guest

While white is the biggest no-no, some other shades can also come across as tacky. “Unless it’s a wild disco-themed wedding, steer clear of overly bold colors,” Erlanger advises. “Skip neon shades, bright red, or anything too flashy—unless, of course, the wedding is literally at a rave. And yes, I’m sure that’s happened before!”

Cultural traditions also play a role. For example, red is a traditional bridal color in Chinese and Indian weddings, so it’s best to avoid it unless you know the couple is embracing a different theme.

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